Negative Nancy

 

What you will see next Wednesday if you are my Facebook friend

On Wednesday I switched over from the old Facebook to Facebook Timeline. Normally this wouldn’t be blog worthy, but I began to notice a pattern. As I went through my old status updates from when I first moved here in 2009 to around mid-2010, I noticed a pattern. First of all, I updated my status a ton. Too much. Secondly, the majority of my status updates were negative. Here is a sampling just from 2009:

  • “se siente pésimo”  feels awful
  • “is really hoping that this week will be better than the last…”
  • “this rain is not helping my mood :(“
  • “is frustrated.”
  • “is booooooooooored (and didn’t think she would say that at least until august)”
  • “sometimes life just messes with you”
  • “is sick in bed :(“
  • “tiene frio, para variar…brrrr!” is cold, as usual…brrrr!
  • “rain rain go awayyyyyyy”
  • “shouldn’t have eaten that pie de limon right before class…uuugh :(“
  • “unfair. really unfair.”
  • “frustrated.”
  • “cansadita…long day tomorrow”
  • “está inquieta” is restless
  • “will never be a morning person…ugh!”
  • “stupid stupid stupid stupid futbol game is cramping my style”
  • “tengo tuto pero no tengo donde dormirrrr….que frustrante” I’m tired but I don’t have a place to sleep…how frustrating
  • “puuuucha” darrrrrn
  • “creo que me voy a resfriar….que lata” I think I’m getting a cold…what a drag
  • “me duele la guataaaaa…y otro dia muy largo 😦 puuuucha.” My stomach hurts…and another really long day 😦 darrrrn
  • “gruñona…tengo calor, hambre y sueño :(” grumpy…I’m hot, hungry and tired 😦
Of course there were some positive ones thrown in there too, but it struck me that, according to my Facebook presence, I was either sick, tired, cold, hot, or frustrated for the majority of the first year and a half that I lived in Chile. And I don’t remember it being that way in real life. Sure, there were some rough patches, like when I was working 48 hours a week teaching English and I got really sick as a result, but I honestly don’t remember being so darn whiny all the time! And why was I sick like every other day? And why was I so cryptic? What was so unfair? Why was I so frustrated? I honestly don’t remember.
I was talking to some friends about this the other night, and both of them (who arrived to Chile before me and pre-Facebook era) said “Thank God I didn’t have Facebook when I first moved here!” This led me to think that perhaps I used Facebook as an outlet to let off steam, and simply didn’t update when things were peachy keen.
I also think that now I am simply more private with Facebook, due to the people who I am friends with. Yes, I have privacy controls and lots of people are on the “Restricted” list, but sometimes I am paranoid and don’t absolutely trust that those lists work. So now when I’m frustrated or tired or hot or cold or sick, I complain to my friends or family, instead of social media. 🙂
Besides the negative status updates, I really didn’t find anything too embarrassing in my 8 years of Facebook use. It turns out that I deleted my wall (yes, you could do that back in the day) at the end of 2004, so that probably saved me a lot of clicking “hide from timeline”.
Have you found anything interesting while switching over to Timeline?
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18 thoughts on “Negative Nancy

  1. I haven’t switched over yet but I find the whole timeline thing kind of cool. Just to skip down memory lane and read what you wrote.

    • Yeah, for the most part it’s pretty cool. Although it does freak me out just a bit to know that any of my friends can also take that little trip. Hence the “hide this from my timeline” button has been used quite a bit.

  2. I haven’t switched over yet but I find the whole timeline thing kind of cool. Just to skip down memory lane and read what you wrote.

    • Yeah, for the most part it’s pretty cool. Although it does freak me out just a bit to know that any of my friends can also take that little trip. Hence the “hide this from my timeline” button has been used quite a bit.

  3. Aside from one possible over share about Ralph Nader (so I find activism attractive… what’s so wrong about that?), there wasn’t much I had to delete. The pattern you mentioned is interesting… a lot of my status updates from a few years ago were complaining about something, sort of a passive-aggressive way of dealing with something without actually dealing with it. I find a post a lot less “personal” things now… more just videos, photos, links, etc that I find interesting.
    Did you have Facebook when you studied abroad in Chile? I didn’t (but did when I moved back to Chile for work). I kind of wonder how it would have changed my study abroad experience. I think it would have been awesome to have it better “documented,” with all of the photo posting and tagging that happens on FB. But having an update about EVERY party, event, etc that went on back home? That might have been distracting to see the least. Facebook can take you out of the moment, which in an immersion-setting isn’t exactly beneficial.

    • Hey Kelley! Yes, I did have facebook as a study abroad student, but it was before any Chileans had facebook, so I wouldn’t say it was a huge detriment to my study abroad experience. I don’t remember being inundated by updates from back home, but maybe it’s because the VAST majority of my facebook friends were also abroad so mostly I got to see pictures from Europe and Africa and China. 🙂

  4. Aside from one possible over share about Ralph Nader (so I find activism attractive… what’s so wrong about that?), there wasn’t much I had to delete. The pattern you mentioned is interesting… a lot of my status updates from a few years ago were complaining about something, sort of a passive-aggressive way of dealing with something without actually dealing with it. I find a post a lot less “personal” things now… more just videos, photos, links, etc that I find interesting.
    Did you have Facebook when you studied abroad in Chile? I didn’t (but did when I moved back to Chile for work). I kind of wonder how it would have changed my study abroad experience. I think it would have been awesome to have it better “documented,” with all of the photo posting and tagging that happens on FB. But having an update about EVERY party, event, etc that went on back home? That might have been distracting to see the least. Facebook can take you out of the moment, which in an immersion-setting isn’t exactly beneficial.

    • Hey Kelley! Yes, I did have facebook as a study abroad student, but it was before any Chileans had facebook, so I wouldn’t say it was a huge detriment to my study abroad experience. I don’t remember being inundated by updates from back home, but maybe it’s because the VAST majority of my facebook friends were also abroad so mostly I got to see pictures from Europe and Africa and China. 🙂

  5. What is this Facebook Timeline that you speak of? Am I missing something? I noticed that a lot of friends changed their format and, honestly, it’s hard for me to read.

    BTW, I don’t think you were particularly negative. I prefer to read the interesting status updates that tend to be a bit cryptic than “OMG!!!! LIFE IS SOOOO AMAZING. DON’T YOU GUYS, LIKE, LOVE IT??!?!?!”

    What does that say about my personality?

    • You’ll have to change over in a week or so. It’s the newest Facebook remodel. It’s kind of cool though, because you get to go through and see anything that ever happened on your Facebook. I think the top part is visually more pleasing, but i’m not super sold on the actual aesthetics of the timeline itself.

      I personally hate cryptic FB updates and I can’t believe I was ever that passive aggressive. When I can’t even remember why I put “sometimes life just messes with you”…I think that’s a problem. Overall, I think it’s better to be positive than negative, but I agree that overboard positivism can be annoying.

  6. What is this Facebook Timeline that you speak of? Am I missing something? I noticed that a lot of friends changed their format and, honestly, it’s hard for me to read.

    BTW, I don’t think you were particularly negative. I prefer to read the interesting status updates that tend to be a bit cryptic than “OMG!!!! LIFE IS SOOOO AMAZING. DON’T YOU GUYS, LIKE, LOVE IT??!?!?!”

    What does that say about my personality?

    • You’ll have to change over in a week or so. It’s the newest Facebook remodel. It’s kind of cool though, because you get to go through and see anything that ever happened on your Facebook. I think the top part is visually more pleasing, but i’m not super sold on the actual aesthetics of the timeline itself.

      I personally hate cryptic FB updates and I can’t believe I was ever that passive aggressive. When I can’t even remember why I put “sometimes life just messes with you”…I think that’s a problem. Overall, I think it’s better to be positive than negative, but I agree that overboard positivism can be annoying.

  7. It’s interesting that you identified that negative pattern in your posts. I actually opted in to Timeline about a month ago, and I really like the aesthetics and the ease with which I can browse past events and status updates. I have always tried to be careful about what I post on Facebook (I hate when people overshare), so I didn’t really have to hide anything.

    • I like the aesthetics of it too! Especially the big picture and the top part. I do wish navigating to the past was a bit easier though, but maybe I just don’t have the hang of it yet. I also hate when people overshare, but apparently I was an overshare-er in the past. At least I am now reformed. 🙂

  8. It’s interesting that you identified that negative pattern in your posts. I actually opted in to Timeline about a month ago, and I really like the aesthetics and the ease with which I can browse past events and status updates. I have always tried to be careful about what I post on Facebook (I hate when people overshare), so I didn’t really have to hide anything.

    • I like the aesthetics of it too! Especially the big picture and the top part. I do wish navigating to the past was a bit easier though, but maybe I just don’t have the hang of it yet. I also hate when people overshare, but apparently I was an overshare-er in the past. At least I am now reformed. 🙂

  9. Wow, sad to hear that. :S I think I identified that I used to be obsessed with Facebook and update wayyyyy too much. I also used to be much more of a radicalist than I am now … I’d hate to think I’m losing my need to fight for what I believe in.

  10. Wow, sad to hear that. :S I think I identified that I used to be obsessed with Facebook and update wayyyyy too much. I also used to be much more of a radicalist than I am now … I’d hate to think I’m losing my need to fight for what I believe in.

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